So there's a lesson that keeps being forced all the time and it's kind of integrated into myself but really not enough, so that it's something that comes up in thought reasonably frequently but doesn't govern all decisions and thoughts as much as it really should, so that situations still creep up that confront thoughts and show how biased they are even though this lesson is forced all the time and thought to have been learnt reasonably well, it clearly hasn't been learnt well enough. That lesson is about the depth of other people's existences independent of my own, that they have inner lives that certainly may have some common elements but that have a huge amount of differences as well. It seems simple, but it's so infrequently lived properly, deeply. So there's always this complaint about why the hell the lesson hasn't been learnt yet, how many times must it be taught to be learnt, as though somehow the brain is just supposed to do all the work with only minimal conscious input. Well that's probably not really how the brain works. You can't just expect it to develop itself. You have to actually do stuff. (This is, lolzily, another obvious lesson that needs the same sort of attention). So maybe what needs to be instituted is a rigorous process of thought deployment. Have to include the idea of other peoples' person-ness in everything all the time. There can be no exceptions. No indulgent giving in to allowing one-sided ideas to do their thing. Even if the concept can't be felt fully at all times, it must at least be thought of as fully as possible. If it's difficult, try just making up a story about the other person's life that lead them to act the way they do. Never let judgementalism have unchecked reign. It's a simple principle, easy - the only pitfall is times where willingness is lacking. But keep trying.

This is a practice that can be used for many things.